The primary gist of this email is to simply thank you for your website. Ironically I myself attend a church of Christ. My Google searches centered around a whirlwind of emotion and biblical questions which I ran into recently. A while ago my mother was talking with a Christian family and, of course, spoke very highly of me. She even mentioned my virginity. This family jokingly said, "He can marry our daughter.
My boyfriend is not a virgin. What should I do?
Should a Christian date or marry someone who is not a virgin? | GETDWELLNESS.COM
I know how you feel, because I was a virgin on my wedding day, but my wife was not. Like the woman you mentioned, my wife had become a new creation. But it was still a painful challenge to deal with the knowledge of her past. Then, there was the let-down of having waited that long to give myself entirely to someone, and wanting her to share the experience of the wedding night as totally unique. Sound familiar? One reason why these thoughts keep coming to mind for you is probably because you are trying to push them out of your mind without dealing with them.
Should a Christian date or marry someone who is not a virgin?
This thread is NOT an attack towards those who have committed fornication in the past. If you have had premarital sex in the past but you've since repented from that and are now committing your life to sexual purity, then praise be to God and I tip my hat off to you for turning your life and morals around. With that being said Most of the time I feel like I am alone in this world when it comes to this subject matter, but maybe I am wrong.
Growing up in a Christian home, I was raised to view my virginity as almost as important as my salvation. I took those warnings to heart. It's difficult to understand if you didn't grow up in the church, but the focus on purity before marriage is so pervasive in many Christian circles that I didn't even question it. Of course I would wait until marriage. How could I think of doing anything else?